June 2025: Hate to Find Out This Way, Love to Know
6 things to do to find center this 6 month
Hey there! What do you mean it’s already June 10th? Better late than never?
Every time I’ve sat down to write this newsy-letter to you, I’ve found myself overwhelmed. Dismayed by my own, relentless Tower moments. Devastated by the overlapping crises in the world that demand attention and effort. Daunted by the notion of condensing cosmic cycles into something supportive and useful, and to be honest, a little disquieted by the idea that I could be cluttering up your already-full inbox, causing the same overwhelm that plagues me.
And yet, here I am, and here you are, and Pride is a riot, and ICE is melting in LA, and we are alive for this fresh and broken June, and here we go!
ICYMI:
📅: Week #24: June 9-15, 2025
✍🏻: Catch up on my entries for the Tarot & Tropes Challenge on tumblr dot com
💚: Sign up for the next SMUT CLUB - June 19th from 5-7pm PST
🎧: Call Your Coven is new! June 2025: The Outlaw Takes Their Place
JUNE 2025: Hate to Find Out This Way, Love to Know
When I started tuning into June’s 6 energy for the Call Your Coven record back in May, it felt like we were in for some relief, but also some tricky, sticky stuff. It is Gemini season, after all… And upon further reflection, it seems some of the mess is coming from the 9 energy we’re all swimming in in 2025 (2+0+2+5 = 9).
At the beginning of the year, I shared “about a spiritual download I received about the ouroboros, an ancient symbol of a snake eating its tail; an infinite, painful cycle… Yes, we really can know it all. But—and this is a big but—the more we know, the harder it is to hold.”
Still, we want to know things!! Knowing/seeing/understanding/exploring/opening to new/changing/shapeshifting/expanding/contracting/enmeshing information holds the keys to so much authenticity/honesty/relationship/connection/solidarity/community and love.
But the ouroboros reminds us that pain is promised in the knowing, and sometimes it shows up in how the message is delivered as well, which leads me to name an experience I’ve had many times over since the start of the month, and have also observed in the lives of others: Hate to Find Out This Way, Love to Know.
I hate that it took a near-death experience for me to plant new seeds of wanting to be alive, and I love knowing that I still desire to breathe and blink and be on this Earth. I hate that it took a double-dose of cancer to show my wife and I the truth of our community bonds, and I love knowing that I am surrounded by kind/caring/generous/funny/kick-ass people! (Who can cook, no less!) I hate that it took wildfires and ICE raids to show the ferocity of Los Angeles, and I love knowing that I moved to a city that has a deep commitment to protecting its people.
Now you try!
The tricky, sticky truth of June is this: We can’t force ourselves to heal when we’re not ready, and also, the world is topsy-turvy, and the time to show up is now. Ignorance might be billed as bliss, but knowledge is the gateway to love-in-action. May you find the courage to face what’s hard with a soft heart and an open mind.
So be it, see to it!
6 Things to Do to Find Center This 6 Month
Focus on art, beauty, love, joy and pleasure ❤️ — When in doubt, shut off the news and put on a movie. Power down your phone and pick up a book. Take yourself to a new exhibit at your local art museum. Buy a ticket to a community theatre production. Bonus points if you bring a friend! Volunteer at a local kitchen, or bring a meal to a friend who is going through it. Wear your best outfit. Eat your favorite foods. Literally stop and smell the roses.
Assume best intentions 😌 — This is a personal practice of mine, so maybe it rings true for you too? I know, I know, they had a tone, they said a thing you didn’t like, it sucks to have the mirror held up by a beloved, etc etc etc. But what if they love you and want good things for you? What if they’re human and sometimes say the wrong thing? Obviously this requires context and discernment. I’m definitely not advocating for excusing bad behavior. That said, what might change if you entered into your interactions from a place of good faith?
“You got to use people up the way you find them!” 🍑 — That’s what my Great-Grammy Martha used to say, and she lived to be 94-years-young, so there must be some wisdom to it. What it means is this: While people can change, you can’t change people. We are who we are, until we decide to be someone else. It may be disappointing to find out someone’s not who we want them to be, but tough titties. Have a Fuzzy Navel—Martha’s drink of choice!—and remember we’re all worthy of love, acceptance, and belonging.
Take care of your people 🤗 — First, you must define who your people are. Might I suggest making a bunch of circles and filling in the layers of love in your life? Who are the closest to you, and what does service mean in the everyday? Who’s in your neighborhood, and what would generosity look like to them? What are the larger communities or groups you belong to, and how can you be more present and active in them? Don’t forget the land you live on and the spirits who surround you!
Take stock of your garden 🌱 — In a similar fashion, make a map of the garden of your life. We all live in a lovely pie chart of ever-shifting priorities, desires and responsibilities, so yours might look totally different than it did this time last year, or even last month. What’s growing? What needs to be weeded out? What made for a ripe harvest before, but is now overgrown? You may always start the work of tending to your own plot, but you could also just spend all month map-making. Whatever feels good and rich to you!
Be gay, do crimes 🌈 — ICYMI, Robin Hood is queer. Sure, he loved Maid Marian, but he also hung out in the forest with a bunch of merry men… You do the math. He was also an outlaw, famously stealing from the rich to give to the poor. An amazing role model for another unbalanced moment in history… If you want to read further about gay crimes, check out Carter Smith’s DIRTY LITTLE FRIDAYS, which is NSFW but is incredibly sexy, dark, and informative! And if you need help disobeying, Meg Jones Wall has a couple of juicy resources for becoming more comfortable with going against the grain, and finding your role in the resistance.
NOTABLE NUMEROLOGY IN JUNE
FULL MOON IN SAGITTARIUS
06/11/2025
6+1+1+2+0+2+5 = 17/8
This is our second full moon in a row with 17/8 energy! On the full moon in Scorpio on May 12, I wrote, “Find out what makes you feel even the slightest bit better, more hopeful, more comfortable, more empowered, more in touch with pleasure, and do that.” Then, I gave you the option to put yourself to bed if you were out of gas. Unfortunately, this Sagittarius moon is WIDE AWAKE and wants you to be too. If you did the work of last month’s moon, then perhaps you are ready to get in the ring and act from this new place of integration and embodiment. DO IT! WE NEED YOU! But if you’re still figuring out the answers to last month’s questions, it’s time to put the pedal to the metal and figure it out as you go along. Do one thing today to get back into your body and heart, and let that lead you forward.
SUMMER SOLSTICE
06/20/2025
6+2+0+2+0+2+5 = 17/8
Again with the 17/8, okay okay OKAY! Here, on the longest day of the year, spend some time with the bits of you that aren’t too sure about stepping into the spotlight. Why are they more comfy in the shadows? Sometimes, shadow work is the best way to play the game, both in the sense of tilling your own soil and using the whisper network to enact your secret plans. But sometimes, we’re just scared of being seen, and too worried about causing a ruckus to put ourselves out there. Today, the risk is worth the reward. Open the doors to your very being and let the summer sun wash over you and shine brightly on all that’s ready to be illuminated.
NEW MOON IN CANCER
06/25/2025
6+2+5+2+0+2+5 = 22/4
This is the THIRD new moon in a row with 22/4 energy. On the new moon in Taurus, we romanticized the quiet sit spot. The new moon in Gemini told us, If you build it, they will come. Here, on the new moon in Cancer, it’s time to prepare the feast. Four is a number that reminds us there is enough of everything for everyone. It’s a generous energy, but contained: the sound of laughter at the dinner table, the art of splitting the last piece of cheesecake, the safety and support of those in your early pandemic bubble. How can you offer nourishment to those around you? What do you give freely to others that you might enjoy having for your yourself? And what does it mean to be, and have, enough?
I would love to hear from you! Sending you love, comfort and protection in June.
Ok, hate-to-find-out-love-to-know is brilliant and i shall be borrowing it immediately. Thank you so much.